Love your Bridesmaids {Part IV: Beware; Bridezilla and the Big Day}

Unfortunately, bridezillas are not a myth. The WE network wouldn’t have such a successful series on its hands if it were. When planning a wedding, it’s easy to get caught up and want everything to be so perfect you forget that people are not. While it’s okay to ask for certain things—such as all maids to be ready and/or show up at the bride’s house at a certain time-sometimes it can easily get out of hand.

Have realistic expectations of bridesmaids—primarily they are there to support you, not cater to you—and understand that just because it’s your wedding, that doesn’t mean you have a right to boss people around, talk down to them, or make outlandish or extravagant requests.

When all is said and done, your bridesmaids were chosen for a reason. Keep in mind that you chose these women because they are closest to you and you can count on them, your bridesmaids have been part of your life for some time and you want them to keep being in your life. As a bride, you have a bond with them, and it is one that you’d like to continue long after your wedding day is over.

Happy Planning!

Love your Bridesmaids {Part III: Communication is Key}

Talk to your bridesmaids.

Brides should be straight-forward in asking for what they want, If you want them to help put together the favors, say so. If you want your bridesmaids to wear their hair a certain way at the wedding, say so. Brides can’t expect bridesmaids to just know what they want.

One of the bridesmaids’ typical functions is to provide help and opinions.

By all means, mine the wisdom of your closest friends. But do it with respect and appreciation. If you can’t decide which type of cake you like best, have the "sweet tooth" among the bridesmaids go with you on a taste test. Is one of them especially creative? Ask if she’d like to help with invitations or visiting florists.

It’s important to remember, though, that asking is different from expecting. A bride might be consumed with wedding planning, but bridesmaids are busy with lives of their own. Inviting them to partake in activities "not demanding that they do" helps them feel included without being forced. Most bridesmaids, though, are willing to participate and ninety-nine percent of the time, your bridesmaids will be more than happy to help and they will save you a lot of headache.

Love your Bridesmaids {Part II: Dress to Impress}

One of the biggest gripes bridesmaids have is that they’ll be forced to wear some frilly, mustard-yellow, taffeta, bow-covered concoction. Thankfully, bridesmaids’ dresses have come a long way in recent years, and brides should see and understand this. The whole mentality of the bride putting the bridesmaids in ugly dresses so that she looks more beautiful needs to be kicked to the curb, yes--regardless of what the bridesmaids wear, the bride will be the star of the day. The dresses should be something that the bride would have no problem wearing herself.

*An easy way to ensure all the women feel comfortable in their dresses is to have them wear the same color and fabric, but a cut in which they feel comfortable. Allow each bridesmaid to wear a dress that suits her body type and style, rather than making a half-dozen ladies with different body types wear the same dress. Another option is to have your bridesmaids choose whatever dress they’d like, as long as it’s a certain color.

*Cost is another consideration. I suggests brides look beyond the typical bridal salons, as they can be pricey. Check out J.Crew, Ann Taylor, Loehmann’s, or any of the major department stores.

And sometimes, simply asking your bridesmaids can make all the difference.

Choose wisely your bridesmaids dresses, because one day the very same torture you subjected your bridesmaids to wear may happen to you.

Share your story: What's the worst bridesmaid dress you've ever had to wear/seen at a wedding?

Check back for Part III...

Jennifer & Jared Part II

B.I.G Video Show

Kenneth is a wonderful and very talented videographer based in PA. I met him through Samantha Goldberg (Gold Events & Co.) back in September while coordinating the wedding of NJ's Senator, Joe Vitale to Miss NJ USA 2002 Robin Williams.

While I didn't have a videographer for my wedding, long story short (I can't watch a movie twice, I wasn't a fan of having a video to watch it once and then put away to collect dust)...heck I don't think I have watched our episode on Whose Wedding Is It Anyway more than twice!!! It was during Jennifer & Jared's wedding that I started to appreciate videography and I admit, regret not having a wedding video to watch even if it was just once.

Kenneth edited and put together an amazing 5 minute video show of the highlights and special moments that took place earlier in the day of Jennifer & Jared.

J & J to watched and share it with their guests towards the end of the Reception.

So, If I had to do it all over again, I would hire a videographer, I would hire Ken!

Brides...I suggest not skipping on your wedding video. Having your wedding video is preserving the moments "live" that will stir the emotions in the years to come!

Here is Jenn & Jared's BIG Video Show by Kenneth Stillman! Enjoy!

12.13.08 Congratulations Jennifer & Jared!

Busy Weekend part II...

Saturday, Samantha and I were off to The Merion in South Jersey for Jennifer & Jared's wedding. They were the sweetest couple ever and such a delight to work with.

J & J's bridal party was filled with just true and genuine friendship. It was very touching when one of the bridesmaids approached me expressing her gratitude to us for creating the wedding Jenn had visioned and the fact that the couple was happy filled her with joy.

Here we are with the sweetest groom and most stunning bride.

Samantha's pick of chocolate pintuck overlays was the perfect touch for their design concept; Elegance.

sugar, sugar...makes love so sweet

It was a pleasure working along with the following top notch wedding professionals that made Jennifer & Jared's wedding day a beautiful and memorable event...

Photography by Josh Lynn Photography
Videography and BIG video show by Kenneth Stillman Video
Lighting, emcee and Entertainment by DJDJ Bishop from DJ's available

and a special thanks to an amazing maitre d', Scot at The Merion!

10.31.08 Congratulations Sarah & Todd!

A Happy Halloween Wedding!

This is catchup week, ok..month! Lots of posts coming up.

First up is Sarah & Todd's wedding. These two are sooo much fun and I think it shows in their picture just how much fun they have together. Everyone had such a great time celebrating the love that these two share!

Here the love birds packing up some sweets for the honeymoon!

This wedding was perfectly sweet, thanks to Sarah & Todd for allowing me to be a part of their wonderFUN day. I am glad you both loved and enjoyed the candy buffet.

Also some raves to the wonderful professionals that helped make this day so perfect for the bride & groom;

The Tides Estate and their outstanding service and staff, once again!

Josh Lynn Photography for the beautiful moments caught on lens! and the photobooth that was a hit NJ Photobooths

Mario @ Touch of Class for Music entertainment and having everyone off their seats!

Mary @ Touch of Class for Video

Candy Buffet by Catherine @ For Your Event Planning

10.19.08 Congratulations Georgina & Matt!

It's AMORE...


I started working with Georgina and Matt back in June. The couple was seeking a stress-free experience and bring a level of organization to their planning. With just four months to plan their wedding, we managed on creating the atmosphere the couple was visioning; an outdoor tuscan, simple elegant feel to involve their heritage.

The Theme

Tuscany, which is a region in the middle of Italy, renowned for its wine, magnificent scenery and simply sophisticated cuisine...not to mention the medieval charm of its walled towns and castles, vineyards, olive groves, farm houses and green mountainsides.

The Colors

Choosing the color scheme for G's wedding was an easy and fun filled task. With her theme inspiration in mind, I suggested she showed me her favorite color. When I realized G's favorite colors surrounded me in her cozy apartment...warm, earth tones, I put together a few swatches and voila...a bronze brown and champagne were the winners...we added some green with vines of ivy that would bring an instant vineyard flair throughout the centerpieces and decor.

The Venue
Ravello's...What a perfect find!

Just like a Tuscan villa set amidst an elegant and serene setting. The lush gardens, romantic fountains and charming gazebo at ravello's created the perfect and elegant atmosphere Georgina and Matt envisioned for their wedding.

A Fun fact: Ravello is a town and commune situated above the Amalfi Coast in the province of Salerno, Campania, Italy.

Decor

For a relaxed look, escort cards and table numbers were displayed over wine bottle slotted corks. Centerpieces were the ocassional rose , in glass vases heaped with gilded fruit.

Favors

Georgina decided on Lemonade bottles wrapped with straw rope displaying personalized diamond shaped tags with an ivy theme.

Check back for pictures and wedding professional info...

9.20.08 Congratulations to Robin & Joe!

I had the pleasure this weekend of working once again with celebrity event planner from Whose wedding is it anyway?, Samantha Goldberg of Gold Events. It was a fun evening assisting and coordinating the wedding of NJ State Senator Joe Vitale and former Miss NJ, Robin Williams. The Reception, a tented by the shore affair was held at a private estate...simply elegant.

The newlyweds had an amazing day for a September wedding!

Guests left with a sweet lasting impression, aka sugar buzz...after enjoying some newlyweds favorites; a milkshake bar and a yummy candy display Samantha, Corinne, Dana and myself put together.

And since we all love the cameras...here's a picture of the Gold Events' team for the night...

Cathy, Sam,Dana & Corinne

9.5.08 Congratulations to Heather & James!

...post long overdue...but better late than never...

On 9/5/08 our dear friends Heather and James tied the knot in elegance. The Ceremony and Reception took place at The Stony Hill, a fine dining establishment like no other...

The Stony Hill's manicured grounds and pristine estate captivate with an understated elegance. The pleasures of fine food and drink and the ambiance of old luxury make this venue a unique place.

My Reviews...
Stony Hill Inn - A+ "A one-of-kind wedding"
Decor-A+ The Stony Hill keeps its decor within very neutral colors and gold tones (an A+ for brides looking for a simple yet elegant setting)
Service- A+ Outstanding, waiters came by each and every table every now and then taking drink orders from guests, maitre d' was extremely attentive to the bride and groom's needs.
Food- A+ Quality and Quantity
Drinks-A+ Premium

Here's the highlight of the night...
The newlyweds' cake had each guests' name written throughout each tier...yep, all 100+ guests...how cool right? Here's a picture of the cool and by the way, yummy cake...

8.23.08 Congratulations Gina and Adam!

This past Saturday, August 23rd I had the pleasure of assisting/coordinating Gina and Adam's ceremony and reception. The lovely couple exchanged vows at the church of St. Francis Xavier and their fabulous wedding Reception took place at the spectacular 15,000 square foot penthouse Tribeca Rooftop, with a cocktail hour featuring the panoramic and beautiful views of NYC skyline...yep, right on the roof! Not one little detail escaped Gina while planning; from her 3 pair of shoes (each one had a purpose) to her absolutely gorgeous gown....palm fans, programs, menu cards (the menu was incredible btw), satin linens and centerpieces that were just so elegant and chic. The room was glistening with embracing candlelight and bejewelled with florals.

The guests tables were adorned elegantly with centerpieces consisting of large callas in an

x-tra tall trumpet vase, iridescent glass candle holders surrounding the base and beautiful menu cards inserted in a satin folded napkin.

And Robyn's favorite part...MY favorite time of the night...the cutting of the cake...
this gorgeous cake was just as it looks... s.c.r.u.m.p.t.i.o.u.s!

Everyone was having an awesome time.

Everyone was kind, funny and relaxed, this wedding was flawless.

Gina and Adam's wedding day was so extraordinary in every way, it truly felt like a fairytale wedding. We are so lucky to have met such wonderful couple! Gina and Adam, thank you for allowing us to be a part of your special day. May your love always be the heart of your marriage. Our Best wishes,
Your Coordinators
Catherine & Robyn

A big thank you to an exceptional team;

Venue/Caterer~ Tribeca Rooftop ~Oleg Zuto
Floral design ~ Cornucopia
Band~ Faze 4
Makeup/Hair~David Maderich
Photographers~Joe Pacifico

Event Planners ~ Catherine Scerbo ~ Robyn Bartley

~ Oleg Zuto

Stay tuned for Gina & Adam's part II...for some profesional pictures.

8.9.08 Erica and John...part II

Another picture of the beautiful couple;

Erica and John...and me!!! Can you tell I had no sleep? A weekend- full of weddings with about 3 hrs of sleep in between...

and LOTS of coffee!!

Josh and I being silly...

...and again...Can you tell he loves the camera?...me too...

8.9.08 Congratulations Erica & John!

Beautiful and timeless... Erica and John tied the knot at The Mill in Springlake Heights on 8/9/08 during a lakeside ceremony. Erica wore the most beautiful dress, it was just perfect for her. I can't say I had a favorite moment since this wedding went off without a hitch! Here are a few photos by their awesome photographer, Josh Lynn. ("Josh, thanks for sharing")

In the elevator right after saying "I Do"

Erica enjoyed all the DIY stuff, with a little help she made

fan programs, place cards and table numbers herself...

The cake was delicious...

Erica & John, thank you for allowing me to be a part of your very special day. It was my pleasure to be your wedding planner and witness your union. You both are made for each other, this is just the beginning of a wonderful life of happiness together.

Many thanks and raves to the following wedding professionals who together as a team assisted Erica & John's beautiful wedding...

Officiant: Joe McLaughlin @ Dreams made Real

Ceremony Harpist: Salut D'Amour

Photographer: Josh @ Josh Lynn Photography

Florist: Toni @ Marqui Florals

DJ Entertainment: Mario @ Touch of Class

Coordinators: Cathy & Liz @ For Your Event Planning

8.8.08 Congratulations Carrie and Dan!

Here is a sneak peek of Carrie and Dan's wedding which took place at The Birchwood in Whippany, NJ this past 8/8/08.

(non-pro pictures)

Here's the lovely bride.

The beautiful and touching ceremony took place in the gardens of The Birchwood. The ceremony had an extra special touch since it was officiated by Dan's mom and the ceremony music was performed by his aunt and uncle.

Carrie and Dan's Cocktail hour took place in The Greenery and their Reception in The Jefferson Ballroom. Carrie added her love for Gerberas throughout the Ceremony and Reception. We used floating Gerberas, floating candles and a few tealights to create her centerpieces. Table #'s were adorned with the Gerbera theme as well.

...and who doesn't love cake???

Carrie...it was a pleasure to plan with you such special day in your lives, thank you for sharing your day with us. Dan...what can I say, you won our hearts with your beautiful voice. We wish you the best...see you on Broadway!!! ::::cheers::: to a forever, happy and wonderful marriage! Cathy and Robyn

Carrie and Dan's professional photos, coming soon…. yeah, it really does take time for professional photographers to create their masterpiece. Check back soon...

8.2.08 Congratulations Melba & Daniel!

Congratulations to our dear friends, Melba and Daniel! My husband and Danny have been friends since they worked together (in blue). I met Melba through Danny, and so happy I did, she's an absolute doll. The bride and groom tied the knot yesterday August 2, 2008 at the Queen of Peace Church in North Arlington, NJ and their reception followed at The Birchwood in Whippany, NJ. Everything was amazing and the bride looked stunning. It was a beautiful wedding and we were so blessed to be there to witness their union. We wish you many wonderful years full of Love, Happiness and Joy! Your friends, Anthony & Cathy

Here we are with the bride and groom...

Stay tuned, for our next visit to The Birchwood next weekend!!

7.3.08 Congratulations to Christine & Michael! Love is in the air!

I have had the profound pleasure and honor of coordinating Christine and Michael’s beautiful wedding this past July 3, 2008 at The Tides Estate in North Haledon, NJ. It was our first time coordinating an event there and I have to say “I just loved the mood, the beautiful grounds, the indoor/outdoor cocktail hr and the service provided by their extremely professional staff everything was so fascinating to me”. I absolutely loved it! I have included a few teaser pictures.

Christine & Michael are such an adorable & sweet couple and were so lucky to have found each other and join their lives in holy matrimony on such beautiful day.

They exchanged vows at the church Immaculate Conception in Annandale, NJ. Robyn and I were in awe, the church was absolutely beautiful, and breath-taking! Just as its name implies the church was "Immacualte"! Not to sound too emotional but I had tears in my eyes when the groom walked to meet his darling bride who was escorted by her mother and father. This reminded me why I love being a planner.

Their families and friends were all so friendly and welcoming. You could feel the love that surrounded them throughout the entire event.

The awesome bride Christine is one of a kind! Being a philly girl herself, she was daring enough to surprise her new husband (Mets fan) with Mr. Met's appearance (and 'oh boy' was he surprised) during the reception, when at least half of her guests were straight Philly’s fans. It was a great time to see all her guests willingly take pictures and high five Mr. Met!

Michael enjoyed every single minute of it!

Here's a picture of Mike's reaction...

Christine & Michael, Thank you for allowing us to share your special day.It was a pleasure for us to plan with you and help create your dream wedding. We wish you many, many years of love, health and happiness.
Your Coordinators,
Cathy & Robyn
For Your Event…

The newlyweds are now off to St. Lucia and I can't wait to hear how much fun they had on their honeymoon! I'll post more pictures soon!

I have to give raves of awesomeness to all the wedding professionals that also helped this couple get married. Everyone was professional, friendly and easy going. We didn't have a single problem, and this put me at such great ease. The whole night was flawless! I can't thank them enough.

Thank you Robyn for all of your hard work and for once again assisting me.

Tides staff; Thank you, we'll see you again in October, if not sooner.

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Venue: The Tides Estate, North Haledon, NJ

Maitre d': Mike @ The Tides

Photography by: Alison Conklin

Videograher: Rob at Villanovisions

DJ: Danny C Entertainment

Florist: Flowers by Connie Riemer

Mr. Met: Matt Golden