The Unity Candle

The lighting of a unity candle is performed to symbolize the pledge of unity between the bride and groom, the merging of two families, and their love for the bride and groom.

More often it is to symbolize the union of two individuals, becoming one in commitment. The popular explanation is that the taper candles are lit by representatives from each family (usually the mothers of the bride and groom) to symbolize the love and allegiance that each family has for either the bride or the groom. As the bride and groom use these two flames to light the unity candle (usually after formal vows), they bring the love of both families together in a united love of the new couple. Generally, the two tapers are left burning and replaced in their holders (because each family's love for their own will continue). However, in some ceremonies they may blow out their individual candles to symbolize the extinguishing of their two single lives.

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Often the unity candle is personalized complementing the wedding invitation, with the couple's monogram, or other ornamentation; crystals, ribbon etc... The candles are almost always white or ivory. The lighting ceremony may be accompanied by special music, an explanation of the symbolism, or just some period of mutual gazing by the happy couple. In some circles, it is customary for the couple to save the unity candle and relight it on anniversaries.

Tip: Make sure that there aren't any decorative beads, ribbon or lace around the flame of the candles - they can easily catch fire. Consider pre-lighting the taper candles and the Unity candle to make them easier to light in outdoor ceremonies. If your ceremony is outdoors, always have several extra lighters nearby in case the wind decides to blow the candles out and/or try putting the Unity Candle inside a glass hurricane lamp can be very helpful in protecting from the wind/breeze.